Establishing healthy ancestral relationships is one of the best cultural changes I’ve seen taking place in Western society, especially amongst the Black diaspora. But sometimes things go wrong. “Ancestor” is a title we give to those family spirits who show up with the desire and ability to have a positive relationship with their descendents and the material world. They have a balanced relationship with power and influence. They show good character.
However, some family members who have passed on from this life may seek connection to you that is mixed up with resentments or ill-will. They may have their biases and unhealthy projections. Or give you advice with a concealed unhelpful agenda. Or even if they are well-meaning you may be having crossed wires because of personal trauma or troublesome family history. I understand, I’ve been there.
Like any other relationship, ancestral ones can have challenges, conflict or misunderstandings. We may need to learn to communicate better and to build trust and intimacy. There are even instances where an ancestral relationship is ready to be released and for you to form connections with different spirits and ancestors of a different path or skill.