The Cum Up – How You Lose Her…

The Cum Up – How You Lose Her…

For those of us committed to living our best lives, who believe in keeping shit positive not by way of cognitive dissonance; but really coming to terms with the negativity of a self-perpetuated fear based reality – that is, our own poverty of mind, self-doubt, envy, falsity, distrust etc. Those of us who know the… Continue Reading

Pussy Power – An Emptying

Pussy Power – An Emptying

I was luxuriating and meditating in the bath the other day and it came to me that I have been on a journey of celibacy rather than sexlessness. That I should not resist it because my relationship to myself, my body, and my sexuality has been transformed. You know I love to talk about my… Continue Reading

The Paraphernalia of Loneliness (Part 1)

The Paraphernalia of Loneliness (Part 1)

You know you’re lonely when you find yourself envious of the connections people make in AA. It’s a muggy Friday evening and I’m alone in a messy room watching the Netflix original Bloodline. I see the kindness in one character’s face, the denial in the other, and you know the arc of the story to… Continue Reading

When the Squat Challenge Doesn’t Lift Your Spirits…

When the Squat Challenge Doesn’t Lift Your Spirits…

It had been a long and peculiar day. Some frustrations, but still, a number of creative wins. I was somewhere between weary and expectant as I walked around my room switching off my fairy lights: The white hearts hanging over my closet; the paper lanterns around my rocking chair; the glowing roses dangling next to… Continue Reading

Disrespectability, Black Feminism, and a Race to the Bottom   

Disrespectability, Black Feminism, and a Race to the Bottom  

I do not endorse respectability politics in so far as it is an ineffectual strategy for countering white supremacy, or any other structural subordination (say rape culture), through sheer will and demonstration of moral uprightness, in accordance with the values of a dominant group in society. It does not work. I do however understand its…

Why Make A Caricature of What Are Complex Feelings for Black Women?

Why Make A Caricature of What Are Complex Feelings for Black Women?

A video has been circulating my Facebook news feed this week. It stages a scene in which a Black man brings his white girlfriend into a barber shop. A hairdresser who is a hired actress says a number of inappropriate things about the couple and the presence of this woman. The camera crew eventually interrupt the…

Black History and the Conservative Roots of Race

Black History and the Conservative Roots of Race

October marks Black History month in Britain and manifests in our key institutions (schools, libraries, museums) as thirty-one days of PR for British colonialism and The Transatlantic Slave Trade. Twenty-four years since its beginnings in Britain we resurrect the annual debate over whether we still need it, but counter narratives – of which BHM is…

“Light Skin Guys Be Like” – On the Boundaries of Blackness (A Response)

“Light Skin Guys Be Like” – On the Boundaries of Blackness (A Response)

The Big Bad Black Community I loved the Lion King metaphor in Bilal’s blog post “Light Skin Guys Be Like”. So I thought I’d start with a Simba reference of my own in the form of a meme, (which I found online, don’t start with me). Bilal asks questions about what it means to be…

Coming to Terms: The Use of Gender in Spiritual & Esoteric Communities

Coming to Terms: The Use of Gender in Spiritual & Esoteric Communities

When we say male/female or man/woman there are ideas and behaviours that we associate with those words, and those ideas don’t disappear in spiritual, religious or esoteric communities. The framework of woman-man is meaningful in our culture and I make no pretence about doing away with those concepts; but rather I seek to deepen our…

Black Consciousness is Not a Legitimate Way Out of Politics

Black Consciousness is Not a Legitimate Way Out of Politics

The logic that you shouldn’t participate in UK politics because of white supremacy & political corruption, and that the solution is to build “back home”, doesn’t make sense.  White supremacy doesn’t have a cut-off point at Gatwick Airport, and #Blacklivesmatter in the UK, as they do back home. The irony is that it is white supremacy…

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